Myth says men rule over women (especially in India). But the world has changed now, and so should those books alter the chapters that speak only about ‘manpower’. Let the males face it – today’s women can compete with their men counterparts in every field. They can dump them too!

If you can dump her, so can she!

Gone are the days when only a guy had the ‘authority’ to leave his girlfriend. Today’s girls have long back buried those fears of getting dumped by their boyfriends. The era has arrived when girls can pay back in the same coin. And they know why and how to do it.

Being the more levelheaded of the two sexes, girls keep in mind all the factors before taking ‘that’ decision. They do themselves a favour by getting it over with, as they know that it’s over and thus, makes no sense playing ‘girlfriend’ any more.

Let’s move in the chronological order as to ‘why’ followed by ‘how’ a girl winds up a relationship.

Why?
The reasons behind her calling it off may be any of the following:

No charm left in the relationship
When she feels no vibes are exciting her anymore, then she knows it’s the time to move on…without him! An unhappy relationship cannot be jacked up. So she hits another road.

He’s not up to her expectations
She wants him to care for her; not send her roses everyday. She wants him to wipe her tears away; not make her cry overnight for no reason. She wants his emotional support; not his bulky wallet. And if he goes the other way around, she will make sure he never comes her way ever again.

He dominates her
If he feels she should always be at his beck and call simply because she dwells in a male chauvinistic society, he’ll have to bear the cost by losing her!

He has double-crossed her
The worst of all! He is totally out of the scene if he is hanging out with another girl. That way, not only is he pushing aside her feelings, but also slapping her dignity. And in such case, she has the full right to backfire in the best hurting manner.

Sex: He wants it, she denies it
If he wants only sex despite her constant ‘No’, he deserves to be dumped. He must remember while making such a demand that it’s not ‘he’ but ‘he and she’ in the relationship to take decisions. So everything should happen with mutual understanding.

How?
Woman, as they say, is the most beautiful creation of god. And thus, she’s been endowed with the quality of doing things in the same manner – beautifully! Yes, she tries not to hurt his feelings too much while killing off the relationship with him. But mind you (men), she may be equally bad at times (and these are the times when you have stabbed on her back!).

Boys, prepare yourselves! Whenever she does any of the following things, she is pointing up at dumping you soon (in a decent way, of course!):

An honest meeting
She is sensible enough to break ‘that’ news to him. Phone, email or SMS (Short Message Service) are the unrefined ways to tell him that, and she knows it. She will meet him somewhere and give her honest explanation of the break-up.

Tell him why
Saving him time and energy to wonder on what went wrong, she will set it right to him with all her subtle reasons. She very well knows he was the one she fell in love with, so she won’t merely say, “It’s over” and walk off.

Give him time to think and react
After her shot, it’s time for him to swallow what she’s just said. And she gives him that time. He may try to elucidate things to get her back, but she will remain on her firm yet tender ‘No’.

If not concluded such a piece with real ‘activists’ and ‘victims’, the spice will be left out of it. Garima, a teacher at the British School of Language, quips, “I had a boyfriend when I was in college and the relationship was quite serious (I guess, at the end only). Then one day, I discovered that he was dating another girl as well, and that was the end of it. I slapped him hard on his face.”

Whereas, Shweta Pawar, a finance student, has a very arresting experience to share, “I was very much in love with a guy some two and a half years ago. But I found him to be a real bully after the courtship of about a month. I tried explaining him that, but, was left with nothing but to take a break. So…one day, I told him that and planned my future without him. Though I miss him even today at times, but those memories of his dominating nature give me enough reason not to approach him anymore”.

Ask her what she told him while dumping him and Shweta reveals, “Nothing much! I asked him to come out with me for a cup of coffee and there, I said, “It’s not working out between both of us. So it’s better to call it quits.” He was shocked at that but I gave my valid reasons and he walked away without saying a word.”

Maddy, a theater artist, has been dumped by his girlfriend recently. Though he loved her so much, yet he could never realise during their courtship that she was going to ditch him. “She claimed to love me as much I loved her. But I have no idea what went wrong that suddenly she stopped seeing me or even taking my calls. And then one day, she reasoned that I wasn’t taking my career seriously,” tells Maddy.